So you’ve been dating each other for a while now. You know each other inside and out. You’ve had your share of fights and laughs, and no one can mention your name without theirs.

And so comes the part of the logical timeline of relationships where the idea of moving in comes up.

You spend enough time already with one another so it wouldn’t be much of a change. Or would it? In some subconscious level it would bring you closer. Not to mention the idea of coming home to someone is quite appealing.

A dear friend of mine recently moved in with his partner after three months. Another was only after three weeks. Now this may seem odd to you, as it did me, but it made me realise that things do go quicker over the rainbow and well, you can’t put a time-line on relationships. So if it feels right then go for it.

You could always move out if it fails.

So you have broached the subject and you both agree that it’s time. Then what? Do you move into their place or them to yours? Or perhaps find somewhere new? Always remember that you are moving in with the person not the place, so it doesn’t really matter.

What may tip your decision are other factors such as who has cheaper rent, closer to work and bars and for the second time in your relationship, whose is bigger. All these may contribute to your decision making process.

Then the most crucial part of the whole process is the merging of the belongings. Take the opportunity to get rid of all the junk you have lying around like old drag wigs and such. Then make sure there’s an even split with whose things are in the ‘new’ place. Put the rest in storage or the garage if you like, just as an added insurance and have fun mixing and matching both of yours so it doesn’t feel like its balancing to one side.  

The rumors are true. Moving in with someone is a big step and is different than being apart. Storming out of the house during a fight may appear difficult. You do need to shift your habits a little and be patient until the creases get ironed out.

Moving in is a wonderful way to grow your relationship, make you a stronger couple and bring everything closer. Or if you don’t believe that bollocks, at least you get to double your wardrobe.

by KLINTON PORTER